You may very well be enjoying a casual, lively social life with a person who is fun to be around, but with whom you simply don't imagine a future.
This is critical, because once you introduce children, you leave them vulnerable to becoming attached.
You’ve probably never heard of asexuality until your child mentioned it to you. After all, “heterosexual” wasn’t used until 1892, although there were certainly heterosexual people in the Middle Ages and in Ancient Greece and even earlier.
You’re probably a little bit confused and a little bit concerned. This probably wasn’t a conversation you were expecting to have when you woke up this morning. The current best estimate is that at least 1% of people are asexual. Anthony Bogaert, a scientist who was among the first to explicitly study asexuality. The famous researcher Alfred Kinsey, when he was working on the “Kinsey Scale”, realized that some people simply didn’t fit on his chart, so he labeled them as “Group X”.
This guide aims to help explain what you need to know about asexuality, and what it means for you and your child. Many people today believe that this Group X described asexual people.
Introducing a new partner before there has been time to process the separation can be very disruptive to children who are already quite confused.
Fortunately there are there are a number of things you can do to try and make this change as smooth as it can be.
Ideally you should not think about introducing a new partner until your children have become used to the fact that you are single.
It is possible that you will date a number of people before finding a serious relationship.
Try not to introduce your kids to what might be a short-term partner; it will only confuse and frustrate them.